My piano music is my feelings put to sound.

I am grateful for a really good piano.

Most people won’t have a clue what I am describing. There are five pianos in my past and present that have made me feel like I could play practically anything, and it was and is a tiny piece of heaven to sit at their keyboard and play.

The first one was an old upright with yellowing ivory keys, the edges of some no longer smooth but worn and chipped. Sneakers the cat sat on top of it, curled around the 8×10 pictures of my brothers and sister, and sometimes in the dark of night, that cat would decide it was time to walk the keys and wake the world. It was my first piano and was always decorated with John Thompson and Note Spellers and sheet music for recital practice. My sister and I played “Rockin’ Pneumonia and the Boogie Woogie Flu” on that piano.

I learned Fountain in the Rain, my favorite recital piece ever, on that piano. That piano earned me the right to take lessons at age 4 with my favorite Aunt Patsy and it got me through the rough years with the cranky and mean Mrs. Good who wasn’t very good. It was a partner to the organ that sat across the room, Angela’s fingers and feet making electronic music, and Rhonda on the old upright, thrilling our Mom with duets from matching books.

The next piano was a beautiful and sturdy Yamaha studio piano that Dad and Mom bought when we made the move to Hutchinson. It was brand new and even had that soft burgundy felt cloth that we were so careful to use and cover those keys.

This piano got me through high school, the years I played for the Chorale at Central Christian, the years I spent with Mrs. Schubert and grossly exaggerated my practice time for lessons each week, the concerto contests I participated in, the United Methodist youth choir I accompanied, the cassette tapes Mom and I made of her singing and me playing. It eventually moved with me when I was married and the girls came along, and it became my piano to teach other littles how to play, my piano to accompany my two little girls as they sang through their growing up years, my piano to practice for church offertories and major pieces for contests and recitals, and my piano to create music programs when I taught school.

A memorable piano is the one that sat in the sanctuary at the Mennonite Brethren church we attended. It had one of the best touches ever. I loved the “action” of those keys, not too heavy, played with ease, so that 16th notes and fast runs were not difficult. I felt like I could just let loose and be free. Every once in a while, I will find a rare piano that just allows me to create, and this was one that talked to me and told me with its touch, “Just make music. Sing with your fingers.” It was easy to have an open mind to whatever the Holy Spirit wanted to speak, walk up to the piano during the offertory prayer not knowing what was going to come out, and begin playing. I would get lost in the moments, praying and worshiping through the music that came from my hands.

There is another piano just like that one, although a different color and name. It sits in the rehearsal hall at church and I am privileged to play it once a week. One of these days, I will go and spend time with it, all by myself, and just be. Just create. Just worship. It is an instrument that I am growing to love very much, and when I have the opportunity to sit at its keys, I feel like I can “sing” again and make the music that is down deep. There is just something about the touch, the action, the feel, that allows me to open up and create.

When life fell apart and I was at my lowest, I borrowed time and a piano across the street at a church during my lunch hours. I went months and months without being able to play, my piano gone. I felt like my tears couldn’t release, because the music was gone. Sam hadn’t experienced my lifetime of piano, but he knew. He knew that a piece of me was missing.  And so he surprised me with the gift of another. It doesn’t have quite the easy touch and action freedom as others – it needs many hours of music to loosen the heaviness – but this piano has been my medication, my crutch, and a vital piece of healing to this wounded heart.

 

Most won’t understand. It doesn’t matter though. It’s not about most. It’s about being grateful. And I am grateful for this “thing” that God put inside me. This “thing” that makes me want to play. This “thing” that allows me to worship and pray without words.

I am grateful for these Masterpiece instruments that have graced my life.

And I am grateful today, that God gave me such a gift.

 

Who eats just half a cookie?!

I am grateful for Christmas cookie time.

I am grateful for snowballs and peanut butter balls and now Nutella pretzel balls and popcorn balls, too.

I am grateful for little encounters with pleasant people.

I am grateful for Sam, because he creates little encounters with pleasant people, and it is nice to observe.

I am grateful for things to keep me busy during this time of year.

I have SAD. Seasonal Affective Disorder. They actually have a scientific name for the Christmas blues. It’s not just holly jolly depression. It’s SAD.  Yes sirree, it really is.

I am grateful that I can realize that this too, shall pass, and January will arrive and the memories and hurts will fade once more.

I am grateful for the ridiculous simple pleasure of watching a new washing machine spin.

I also watched Polar Express last night all by myself while I wrapped a few presents, so I am grateful for new Christmas movies and ones I have already seen.

I need some hay.

 

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Mom’s nativity scenes look a little hay-less. Maybe Bradford Pear leaves will work. We have plenty of those.

Actually, I was at that store that rhymes with Knobby Mobby today, and I ALMOST bought a bag called “Nativity Hay” for $2.99. I was going to PAY $2.99 for a bag of brown grass. Oh, Rhonda. You do know how to kill your paycheck. Thank you, conscience, for stopping me.

I am grateful for my conscience.

I’m also grateful that I can laugh at myself and don’t care as much anymore what others think of me. Don’t get me wrong, I still care way too much, but if I can live through what happened this morning and still face the crowd walking by the glass front of my office, I have come a LONG way:

I prepared myself this morning at home, and I stuck a couple of personal products in my pocket for just in case. (Yes, I know men read this. I am assuming the men who read this are not completely clueless and know what “personal products” mean when a woman refers to them.)

As I walked into the building at 7:40 am, there were two men behind me a few feet back. I stopped at my office door to unlock, since I was the early bird getting the worm. Just as I was unlocking the door with my lunch bag and purse in tow and arms loaded, the men walked in the building at the same time my personal products fell out of my pocket and onto the floor at their feet.

It was a lovely moment.

But…my cheeks didn’t even turn red.

I am grateful that it takes a little more than tampons on the public floor to make me embarrassed anymore.

I am grateful for tacos. I think I could live on tacos.

I am grateful for my counselor’s advice to keep the purple in our relationship.

And I am grateful for snowball cookies that made my boss cry, because her Mom used to make them and she misses her Mama like I miss mine.

Which reminds me to be grateful for those nativity sets – I have very little from my Mom, but I do have those. Hayless and beautiful.

In conclusion, I paired nativity scenes with personal products for this post. Wow. Nothing like keeping it real.

 

Are you grumbly hateful or humbly grateful?

Are you grumbly hateful or humbly grateful?
What’s your attitude?
Do you grumble and groan, or let it be known,
You’re grateful for all God’s done for you?

That was a song my Mom used to sing to me on occasion when I was younger.

Tuesday night was Bingo night. I walked in to the assisted living facility, and my regular group of 14 has dwindled to six.

Jim has moved to a full care facility, so I will not have any more mean stares when I tell him he didn’t actually win that game.

Louene, my 100 year old, was under the weather, as was Ken, my right hand man.

Helen has been at a rehab hospital recovering from illness.

Cindy was in the TV room sprawled on the couch not feeling well.

Dotty was confused and so didn’t play.

Betty and Dorothy have stopped playing because it’s too late at 6 pm.

Katherine passed away. Lucy moved to a full care facility, Anne moved back to West Virginia to be close to her son.

And during the hour of Bingo excitement, Happy Barb was confused and thought someone needed to give her a ride to go see her Dad and she has forgotten that she lives there and her Dad has been gone for years.

Norma looked tired but still had a smile as she helped her husband keep track of his numbers on his two cards, dementia beginning to take hold of his mind.

Ruth falls asleep sometimes between numbers, so I try to keep track of her cards for her.

Avis, my left hand “man” and resident Oscar-the-grouch-but-oh-so-loveable, is my informant, keeping me updated on everyone’s “issues.”

Even Betty, steady Betty, who is always so pleasant and clear-headed, was a little off kilter for some reason.

It’s kind of sad to see how my friends are slowing down physically, and a few of them mentally, a blanket of loneliness and resignation covering the dining room where we play. I’ve been with them almost three years now, and they have taken residence in my heart. Sometimes, I don’t know what to say. “What did you all do this week?” just doesn’t work when the excitement of the day is watching Happy Barb ask everyone to take her home…

A few weeks ago, I saw this ad online:

 

 

Oh, how it makes me cry. And oh, how it makes me so incredibly grateful for my Bingo friends this year. Each one of them has made a lasting impression on me, and I find myself relating to their lonseome sadness on occasion. Every one of them deserves time. Each one deserves a little more excitement than Barb’s confusion. I am grateful to be reminded that this Christmas, I need to show them that I love them.

I could be a little grumbly, a little Oscar-the-Grouchy about a whole lot this season. And I do catch myself grumbling… Christmas is not all happiness and joy in this heart. It is extremely bittersweet and lonesome. It is sadness and feeling “outsider” as I long for what could be.

But, I am grateful that Mom’s grumbly humbly song is still playing in my head all these years later, and I am humbly grateful for the little things.

Life is what it is, and as Mom also used to say, “Bloom where you are planted.” I will try, Mom, I will try.

 

 

 

 

The darker the night, the brighter the stars.

It’s been a Monday.

I am grateful for a very busy day.

I am grateful for fires to put out, for fires that CAN be put out, for the opportunity to put those fires out.

I am grateful for the simple pleasure of pressing a chocolate kiss into a hot peanut butter cookie and creating the sound of the squish.

I am grateful for enough money in the bank to send birthday presents.

I am grateful for safe trips.

I am grateful for encouragement from my CASA supervisor.

I am grateful for a nice next door neighbor.

I am grateful for Christians who are not afraid to love their neighbors and who stand up for them and with them, no matter their race, religion, gender, age, or behavior.

I am grateful for baked potato soup with fresh baked bread.

I am grateful for my Dad who works so hard just because.

I am grateful for a lighted wreath above the garage.

I am grateful for Christmas at Resurrection this weekend.

I am grateful that at least we have choices in this election season. I’ve never wanted to move to Timbuktu before, but it sounds like a pretty good place about right now.

I am grateful for more than one pillow.

I am grateful for diversity in my world.

I am grateful for commercials that make me laugh and cry. But not at the same time. Actually, that would be okay, too.

That makes me grateful for memories of a former brother-in-law laughing so hard he had tears. He did that quite often. Good memories…

I am grateful that I no longer live in a divisive Christian community but one that is inclusive and seeks to serve and love as Jesus taught.

I am grateful for a little travel sized toothpaste tube, since I ran out.

I am grateful for REALLY GOOD MUSIC. Thank you, Jordan Smith, for making REALLY GOOD MUSIC. Oh my word I am stunned and can’t get enough. THAT was a performance. THAT was a memory to cherish.  Okay. Breathe, Rhonda. It’s just a song. Huh-uh, no way. This guy can SING:

I am grateful for people who sneeze funny.

I am grateful for Psalm 139:23-24:

Search me, God, and know my heart;
    test me and know my anxious thoughts.
See if there is any offensive way in me,
    and lead me in the way everlasting.

I am grateful for a closet stuffed with jackets and coats that need to be shared with others.

I am grateful for clementine season. $3.99 is a whole lot better than $6.99.

I am grateful for the smell of Lysol Clean Linen scent. Mmmmm.

I am grateful for Judge Sloan.

I am grateful for people who keep their gum in their mouths and don’t chew it all hanging out for the world to see, because I am around someone quite often who does this, and it kind of makes me ill. Like my daughter feels when she sits at a table with someone who chews and smacks with their mouth open. So I am grateful for people who chew their gum in the privacy of their closed mouths. Kinda like clipping nails in the privacy of a bathroom, the only place one’s nails should be clipped. Ugh, just typing it makes me a little queasy.

I am grateful for Jimmy Fallon’s funny.

I am grateful for a heating pad, a heater at my feet all day, standing next to a vent that is blowing hot air, the comfort of wrapping my fingers around a cup of hot cocoa or hot tea, heated seats or as I call them heat seaters, and the feeling of having a hot face after sitting in front of a roaring fire in a fireplace.

I am grateful for the reminder this Christmas season that Jesus is the Light of the World, but He calls us to be a light in the world. There is no better time of darkness than 2015 to shine…

It’s a happy sunny day and we’re playing the accor-di-uhn!

This morning, I am sore throat-less, it’s a Hoops and YoYo happy sunny day, and Sam and I just read a wonderful devotion:

So how do you lift your head off the pillow in the morning to face a day you know will be filled with distressing trials? You need to know the secret to blessed assurance.

In her infancy, Fanny Crosby became blind. As a young girl she was once asked by her mother if she resented her blindness, and she replied, “Mother, if I had a choice, I would still choose to remain blind…for when I die, the first face I will ever see will be the face of my blessed Savior.” Hers are powerfully convicting words to those who lack contentment in their predicaments. With more than 8000 hymns to her credit, Fanny remained confident in her visually impaired state, saying, “I don’t believe I would have ever written all of those hymns had I been able to see.”

To see joy in our trials, good in our pain, purpose in our frustrations, is the secret to finding strength to live each day. Instead of resentment, find renewed confidence in your trials. Make Fanny’s song yours: “Bless assurance, Jesus is mine!…This is my story, this is my song, praising my Savior all the day long!”

I am grateful for my favorite hymn and the reminder of it this morning to keep me singing all day.

I am grateful for memories of Nanette and the Hoops and YoYo Happy Sunny Day Hallmark e-card. This used to drive me bonkers but it’s just so HAPPY. You can watch it/view it here by clicking on the “play arrow” over the “Do you know what today is?” question, since I don’t have a clue how to post it any other way:

https://www.hallmarkecards.com/ecards/happy-sunny-day-npg6248

Hoops, Piddles, and YoYo.

I am grateful for beautiful poinsettias with big leaves, especially the one sitting in front of me that is a gorgeous orange and yellow, and especially the little red one on the end table that arrived last Saturday from one of our friends and we don’t know who!, and especially the humongous one in the living room that Sam bought for me at Home Depot with leaves as big as my head.

I am grateful for the sound of a dishwasher and a washing machine working this morning while I sit here and type. It is a very pleasant sound, with Charlie Brown Christmas music playing in the background.

I am grateful that one day I will see Jesus. Until then, I will live my life so that maybe, just maybe, someone will see Jesus through me.

I am grateful for 20 minutes last night to just drive through a neighborhood and look at Christmas lights in silence.

I am grateful for a desire to make a salad or two today. If you know me, you understand. That desire does not come around very often.

And I am grateful for a day to be productive and get things done.

Nothing like a good case of strep to slow down and smell the coffee/hot tea/Vicks.

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It’s been quite a week, yes it has. From a house full of family and squeals and giggles and elephants tromping on the floors and sticky fingers touching everything, then watching that van full of family drive away on a Monday morning in the rain, to going back to work to begin the week with one less employee/friend who moved on, to a CASA child in total meltdown and turmoil, to gargantuan lymph glands that decided to sing Adele’s new song, “Hello,” to a throat that refused to be ignored, to horror on the TV in the middle of my sick day and delirium in bed, to a flat tire gone unnoticed except for the fact that in my delirium I had to visit the Minute Clinic for the magic penicillin and happened to discover said flat tire as I walked out of the store…

It’s been quite a week.

So, this morning, as I sit at the kitchen table in the quiet after being told by my bosses to GO BACK HOME AND DON’T MAKE US SICK, I am reminded how beautiful life is.

I am grateful for this warm sunshine that is filling the room, making the ornaments sparkle.

I am grateful for the breeze outside that is making the stubborn leaves, still hanging on for dear life, shimmer and dance.

I am grateful for the smell of hot tea and dryer sheets.

I am grateful for a new thermometer that works.

I am grateful for easy to obtain medicine.

I am grateful for people who are good at their professions who know how to deal with foster children in turmoil, especially my CASA child’s attorney who has less than 10 seconds in her day to volunteer and give more time, but she does it anyway, because she cares and loves our girl. And especially for law enforcement and EMT’s and firefighters who train and respond in tragedies and run to, instead of running from.

I am grateful for safe trips home and families back in normal.

I am grateful that Dad isn’t sick and grateful that he vacuumed and cleaned up and made the house back to itself once again.

I am grateful for a husband who is the best caregiver, who covers with blankets and asks if I need and offers that cup of hot tea and handles the mountain of bedding laundry.

And I am grateful for less than gargantuan lymph glands.

 

A mountain of laundry just means the beds were full.

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This is a picture taken this morning AFTER four loads already done. I am fairly certain the stack was 4 1/2 feet high.

I am grateful for laundry and the washing machine and dryer to get it all done.

I am grateful for Jared and his little troop of helpers who brought all of the bedding downstairs before they left to go back to Oklahoma and Texas.

I am grateful for little memories of pine cone turkeys and puppet shows and fingerprints and laundry and primary color plastic cups for small hands and random cards and dice and dominoes found around the house from games in the cupboard and notes hung on our Thanksgiving tree to cherish…a beautiful Thanksgiving weekend.

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I am grateful for bedtime stories and goodnight kisses and “Now I lay me down to sleeps” and three grands who played choo choo train through the house and “Ama! Ama! Ama!” constants and little boots and shoes at every door and hearing my girl sing her song again and a secret bubble gum stash and my daughter and her family spending time playing Bingo with my assisted living friends and slurped spaghetti and orange peels in a pile and Sharpie marker mistakes on the wall and the table and Topsy’s popcorn and more pie than we know what to do with and hearing Jared and Karissa “talk shop” and baby smiles and wet diapers and hearing two littles say “Papa” and a signature tablecloth adorned with lots of scribbles and late night game laughter around a table and a daughter who insists on pictures taken and dear friends who spent time talking on Saturday night in the quiet of the living room about the memorable high school years at Central Christian and life and another dear friend who ran the kitchen on Saturday and is like a sister to me and on and on and on.

I am grateful for 46 friends and family who braved the cold and the wet and the ice and gave up part of their Saturday to come have breakfast with us, new friends and long time friends, people who have given us so much joy and who are very much a part of our lives.

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I am grateful to be so…

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Ready for a lullaby.

As you sit quietly in My Presence, let Me fill your heart and mind with thankfulness. This is the most direct way to achieve a thankful stance. If your mind needs a focal point, gaze at My Love poured out for you on the cross. Remember that nothing in heaven or on earth can separate you from that Love. This remembrance builds a foundation of gratitude in you, a foundation that circumstances cannot shake.

As you go through this day, look for tiny treasures strategically placed along the way. I lovingly go before you and plant little pleasures to brighten your day. Look carefully for them, and pluck them one by one. When you reach the end of the day, you will have gathered a lovely bouquet. Offer it up to Me with a grateful heart. Receive My Peace as you lie down to sleep, with thankful thoughts playing a lullaby in your mind.

I am grateful that I have a long list of things to accomplish tonight, because that means that my daughter and her family will arrive tomorrow.

I am grateful for bittersweet that comes with tears and emotion. It’s my last day to work with Joyce – happy for her, sad for me.

I am grateful for pictures of Parker on her birthday.

I am grateful for a really full refrigerator ready for hours in the kitchen.

I am grateful for elastic in my socks.

I am grateful for a clean car on the inside.

I am grateful for anticipation of bedtime stories and maybe a lullaby or three with little ones this week.

I am grateful for a Fraser Fir Christmas tree ready to put in the living room tonight.

I am grateful for laughter and silliness at the end of a stressful day.

I am grateful that my sister is helping to make the hard food for Thanksgiving.

I am grateful that our friends and family really won’t care that much if the windows are not sparkly clean, the floor is not mopped squeaky and polished slippery, the food is not 5 star, and not everything is Martha Stewart perfectly matched. We are who we are, and we are grateful.

And finally, I am grateful that when I feel like I am loved not, I know that He. Loves. Me.

 

 

 

I’m just a nerdy birdy.

I am grateful for who I am. I am grateful that I do not want to live in a nation that says, “Stay out.” I am grateful that I want to live in a country that says, “We have room, we want you, we hurt with you, you are welcome here.”

I’ve been collecting books. Children’s books are my favorite. In fact, for many years now, and Shirley Mackey can attest to this, one of my most favorite things in life would be…children’s books. Picture books. The kind that can be read in a few short minutes and the kind that has the BEST PICTURES.  The kind that has a sweet story or one that makes a heart laugh or one that puts a lump in my throat.

I am grateful for the simple but profound and beautiful story of Nerdy Birdy. Everyone should have this book on their coffee table. It is a sweet story that makes my heart laugh and puts a lump in my throat, all at the same time. And it’s a perfect message for these times we are living right now.

I am grateful for silence.

I am grateful for grandchildren pictures to stare at.

I am grateful for my mom’s coat to wear.

I am grateful for the convenience of online shopping and bill paying. I am so vulnerable to retail temptation when my grandchildren are involved, and it is best that I stay out of stores as much as possible.

I am grateful that I am passive and a peacemaker. I would not want to be any other way.

 

I am grateful that Sam listens to me and allows me to engage in long conversation about what is going on in the world.

I am grateful for someone who has a great speaking voice. There is a man who works on a floor above and I always know when he comes off the elevator around the corner because no one has a deep voice like he does. I could listen to him all day. He needs a new career as a narrator for audio books. A voice like buttah. He should read Nerdy Birdy out loud. To me.

I am grateful for flowers that Sam brought to me.

I am grateful for the President of France and his determination to do the right thing in the midst of tragedy and fear.

 

Leave outcomes up to Me. Follow wherever I lead, without worrying about how it will all turn out. Think of your life as an adventure, with Me as your Guide and Companion. Live in the now, concentrating on staying in step with Me. When our path leads to a cliff, be willing to climb it with My help. When we come to a resting place, take time to be refreshed in My Presence. Enjoy the rhythm of life lived close to Me.

You already know the ultimate destination of your journey: your entrance into Heaven. So keep your focus on the path just before you, leaving the outcomes up to Me.

I am grateful that sometimes, my devotions are like a pierce to the heart. Or they are like that V8 commercial where the guy gets bopped on the head. DUH, nerdy birdy.

Finally, I am grateful today that God is God, I am who I am, and He loves me JUST AS I AM, all wishy-washy-peacemaker-avoid-conflict-love-everyone-dailyfail-try-again-rose-colored-glasses me.